While this idea is hyperbolic and completely unrealistic, it’s safe to say that men be coming out of nowhere.
My DMs are few, in part, because men see “virgin” and decide to pass OR they still try and give up. I see it as a blessing.
Men who meet me in person cite how calm spirited and kind I am, how therapeutic my conversations are and how cool it is to be around me, etc. It’s sweet and all but I always respond the same – it’s, literally, God’s glory that shines on me.
On top of that, randos in public are a nuisance. I can’t imagine living in New York with the constant cat calling when I’m minding my black business. BIG eye-roll. I’m exhausted being pretty, lol. I wasn’t always this confident, so please don’t take me for arrogant.
Let’s be honest, not all options are viable options. Even those options are optional. Men (most) are opportunistic, meaning, they only proposition a woman based on looks and view the whole interaction as a game. Others offer the bare minimum in relationships. Even those who call themselves Christians have heathen-like ways.
Idk who this is for but just because a man is a believer don’t make him the one for you… I learned the hard way.
Sifting through all this is time consuming which causes me to really double down on God’s voice throughout the dating process and be obedient to what he says.
It’s his voice that grounds me when I’m blinded by looks, money and big hands (Lol). I use holy spirit guidance to lead me on who to entertain or politely decline.
I’ve waited too long to settle, but this doesn’t make any of the waiting easier. Only worth it.
Keep being honest,
Shanisha xo.